Surrendering Your Way to Victory

Surrendering Your Way to Victory ~ Why winners let go to achieve greatness.

You have likely heard many cliches about surrender and letting go! To many people, surrender sounds like losing and letting go feels like giving up. To others, it sounds like you are missing some form of drive or ambition…

Yet, in reality, the complete opposite is true.

Surrender is not about losing

Winners surrender all the time. The key is knowing when and how to surrender. As a wise person once said… choose your battles! It’s about having awareness of what you can change and what you cannot. When you are in a situation where you feel you are out of control, you can step back, breathe, take a moment, and be present … as that moment right there and then, is all you have.

By releasing the need to control the world and the people in it, you can do your part and simply have faith and trust the process.

Letting go has nothing to do with losing and everything to do with letting go of your need for other things and people to be what you want them to be.

It’s about knowing when it’s time to hold on and when it’s time to let go.

When you try to change others and refuse to accept life on life’s terms, you are holding onto something that isn’t yours to hold.

You don’t know what’s best for others or what their process is supposed to look like. Letting go is about accepting the things that you cannot change and having faith that as long as you focus on yourself and the things you can change, all is well.

What happens when you don’t learn how and when to surrender and let go?

You waste all your energy thinking about the things you can’t change instead of changing the things you can. You are irritable and discontent. You feel like you have been dealt a bad hand and you blame others and life for your discontentment. You are unhappy, and you cannot change it. You fill your life with all sorts of things and people to make you feel better, but it never lasts. You are manufacturing your own misery.

Marianne Williamson wrote this about surrender: “Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. The world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.”

What happens when you surrender and let go of the things you cannot change?

You are happy and free. No matter what comes your way in life, you can walk through it with grace and dignity. You trust and have faith in the process. You believe beyond a shadow of a doubt in yourself and in the universe. You take responsibility for what you can change and you know from the top of your heart that it is enough. Things just have a way of working out for you. You hit the green lights, meet the right people and are in the right place at the right time. Life is awesome.

These concepts are paradoxical, but they work. Many of the greatest minds of all time have tried to explain why they work. It doesn’t really matter what theory or philosophy you prefer. The only thing that matters is that you trust the process, do your best, have faith, believe, and let the rest go. Life will take care of the rest every time.

Once you surrender and let go … you will free your spirit … as worrying, pressure, stress, and fear can bring us to a standstill with life. We need to realize that we cannot control the outcome of anything, and we might as well just ‘go with the flow’ .

When the spirit is free, it can achieve and align with its true potential and anything you want to accomplish is achieved.

Previously published on Medium at

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1 Comment

  1. George "Tim" Tannehill says:

    Thank you for all of the encouraging words and reminding me of what I already know to be true. I have an ill family member who I’ve always felt an extreme sense of empathy for…….especially since one of his maladies is depression and is something I’ve experienced often throughout my own life. He’s been a nursing home for 12 years now and I’m his Legal Guardian. That is not something I really wanted to do but felt an obligation to do 12 years ago. I often wish I hadn’t and, yes, I could resign from that or ask not to continue with it but I don’t have the heart to do that and I have been able to help him enjoy a better quality of life that he did for years. I’m the only family member that does go to see him and I and one sister are the only immediate family that he has left. I’ve remained single all of my life and so far I don’t really regret that. My generalized anxiety and major depression have been part of the reason for remaining single. I am a very kind person and being here for my Bro is probably one of the few truly meaningful things I’ve done with my life. I also am retired as an “Imaging Technologist” wherein I also suffered spinal stenosis and chronic pain. So, I try to go on although not going on sounds more appealing these days with the Covid-19…Thank You for my Guardian Angels…….I really need all the help I can get these days. Thanks again and God Bless You……

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